Now I've often said that themes "show up" in my office. Once something is brought to your awareness, it seems to show up again and again. So the next day, we talked a bit about using profanity in daily life, professional life, and occasionally just for dramatic effect. I had to admit, that as a teen in the 70's it was pretty cool to swear! But in growing up, I found other ways to be a cool individual without shocking or offending anyone with language. I also figured out those swear words just didn't really describe much at all! And I also added that I didn't hear much profanity at work. AND I only use it now, with intent!
So not only did I hear about swearing, I talked about it (!) and then it happened to me! One of my advertisers got a bit frustrated with my constant negotiating that he used that outrageous "F" word at me! I was shocked! I was outraged! Then I thought a minute and realized I was NOT offended. So I called back, left a message for pushing the last button of patience he had, and moved on...resulting in a call back from him, ("wasn't me, my phone went dead.") a completed contract, and what I hope will be a fair business relationship.
Several times in my career I've been asked to assist a client to stop swearing. Using a simple NLP technique and a basic hypnosis session, each client has successfully changed their language to be what they wanted to portray. I remember with a smile the 60 something gentleman who called to say, "I was driving home, wondering about the results of my session when the realization hit. WOW! I don't have to do that anymore!" He claimed his grin was from ear to ear!
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Or call Dr. Vicky Thomas at 661-209-2632
Hi Vicky,
ReplyDeleteVery interesting thanks for sharing. I would be interrested to know which NLP technique you used in helping your client.
Roch
Hi Vicky,
ReplyDeleteI am very interested in this article. I know in my business if someone swears at me I feel compelled not to help them. I also feel that how you speak gives an image to everyone around you about what kind of a person you are, for example if I make a statement and the person I am speaking to answers with "I know, right?" I mentally know 25 IQ points off for that person. It wasn`t until I was an adult I realized what Henry Higgins meant in my fair lady about how you speak effecting your life. I believe that respect is earned and not demanded, it is much easier to make a good impression from the start then to try to earn the respect of someone who already has a negative opinion of you due to your speech. Swearing never makes a good impression, especially not at work.